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"It is amazing what
can be accomplished, when you
don't care who gets the credit." --- John Wooden
I'm sitting poolside at the Marriott Resort in Lihue, Kauai.
There are four waterfalls embracing five Jacuzzis, a bridge connecting to
an island in the middle of the pool, and enough palm trees to constitute
a coconut plantation, shielding the pool from the Pacific. But I'm focused
on a small patch of ground beside my chair where my wife has accidentally
dropped a two-inch piece of bread from her lunch. There are eight dove-like
birds focused quite determinedly on devouring this manna.
Yet unlike most birds I've seen, from pigeons to sea gulls, they are not
fighting over the morsel, but cooperating. The birds form a disciplined
circle around the bread, reminiscent of a rugby scrum, but without the eye-gouging
violence. As the crust is pecked and flipped around, the scrum moves to
new locations, always intent on surrounding the bread, now progressively
disappearing under the jack-hammer attacks of the syncopated beaks. The
eight birds all eat heartily. Other doves, on the perimeter, make no attempt
to horn-in. There is no room. Nor is there any apparent animosity. These
birds are engaged in a win-win exercise.
Finally, the remnant of bread is tossed inadvertently (I presume) well outside
the scrum, where a lone sparrow, biding his time, grabs the gift and flies
away as though jet- propelled. The doves seem to shrug it off, gather up
the remaining crumbs, and wander off to search under other lounge chairs.
They form a well-organized search party, and head toward what appears to
be a lone French fry. For a longer time than I like to admit I viewed the
world as a zero-sum game. If I were going to "win," then you had
to "lose." And if you were "winning," then I must surely
be losing. Too often I would deride others to elevate myself, which is not
really an elevation but actually a descent. There is a thin line between
healthy competition and malice aforethought.
Life is not an athletic event. There should be more than one "winner."
Success should encourage benevolence and philanthropy, not victory dances
and "high fives." With rare exception, we are neither hunting
for scarce food nor protecting remote safe havens. The doves knew that there
were plenty of spilled lunches in their territory, and that it was dysfunctional
to argue and fight. Cooperation meant moderate shares in numerous meals
with no stress and no damage.
We do ourselves too much stress and too much damage when we insist on an
"all or nothing" approach to the challenges in our lives and our
work. When we intelligently share-information, credit, preferences, earnings,
victories, comfort, and other trappings of power-we elevate everyone, including
ourselves.
The greatest business leaders I've ever seen as a consultant are those who
personally accept responsibility for failure but generously share credit
for success. Their subordinates, peers, and friends support them without
reservation and will follow their lead in any direction.
There is enough bread for us all. Let's not peck at our colleagues over
a crust.
TEAMWORK TIPS
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Praise publically, correct privately
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Ask for input on decisions which affect others
- and use it
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Credit others when praise is thrown your way
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Focus on the positives in your teammates and
their negatives will begin to fade
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This article (and many more excellent articles) can be found at: www.summitconsulting.com. On that site you will find an excellent newsletter: Balancing Act: Blending Life, Work, and Relationships [TM]. This article has been used with the express permission of Alan Weiss, Ph.D., CMC and is under full copywrite protection.
You can find more team building articles at www.teambuildingusa.com. Team Building USA guarantees clients a 150% return on investment. You may reprint this article by requesting permission from: JTTaylor@teambuildingusa.com or by calling (866) 351-TEAM (8326).
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